Journey Blog with John
Someone once said that the first step on the road to recovery is admitting there’s a problem. This makes sense...how can I do anything about my situation if I am unwilling to admit something needs to change?
Admitting my problem has been the easy part. My challenge has always been after that. What do I do next? In this post, I will unpack the first step of the 4-step framework that I use when I am stuck.
Somedays I look up and realize that Fear of Failure is at play in my life (again). I have dealt with fear before in my life, so I want to think it will never bother me again, but instead I am tempted to remain a victim. Inertia is working powerfully against me taking a step. When I discover that I am circling in paralysis from being overwhelmed, or have a sense of fake comfort of self-pity, or a feeling of false safety from indecision, I know it is time for change. These are just symptoms of Fear playing out in my life.
Here is the process that helps me get back on the road to freedom when my two least-favorite F words (Fear, Failure) gang up on me. Each step in the process leads closer to my favorite F word, freedom.
The first step is to Declare by wrestling with a question. I know it sounds like an easy step, but this is a really difficult question to answer honestly. I struggle with this one even though I know it is the beginning of the path to freedom. When I decide that I want the change bad enough, I am willing to answer the first powerful question:
Q: Am I really ready to do what is necessary to step out of fear? Really?
This question gets to the root of my willingness to take responsibility for my life. It is one of the single greatest steps I can take, and I know it will be a huge first step for you to take as well. There are at least four good things that happen when I make a Declaration Step:
- The answer reveals if I am really ready to step out of the victim role and move forward as an agent of change in my life.
- There is a powerful sense of empowerment (taking my life back) that comes with setting this intention.
- Making this Declaration sets me on a trajectory which carries success into the next steps that I will describe later.
- I find a sense of freedom from fear when I realize that I am the only one who can take this step for me.
Stepping out of fear starts with a Declaration like "I am willing to do whatever it takes because I am responsible for my life”. This is a powerful step out of a victim mindset. And bonus points when it is shared with others.
The next three steps build on a solid Declaration. They serve as a guide back to the path to freedom. So make this foundation solid! If you have noticed yourself "putting up with fear” or you just "feel stuck", perhaps it is time to take an empowering step by making your Declaration today.
This step launched me on my journey. I am closer to the man I really want to be because I responded to the question with a meaningful, “YES! I am willing to do anything.”
How about you? I would love to hear from you.
What is one thing that you are stalling to make a declaration about?
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